Moving to a new country is more than just a change of address — especially when the move is forced. For many Ukrainians who have arrived in Germany since 2022, a deeper challenge has emerged: How to remain Ukrainian while becoming part of German society? How not to lose oneself — and still not remain isolated?

Two languages, two ways of thinking

Language is often the first border of identity. German is essential for work, studies, and daily life. Ukrainian remains the language of the heart. As we learn German, we begin to think differently — more structured, more direct. This can raise an inner conflict: Am I losing my true self?

But it’s not a loss — it’s enrichment. Living in two languages expands our view of the world.

A stranger among your own – and not quite home among others

In German circles, Ukrainians may feel “not fully at home” — due to different emotions, rhythm, humor. Yet over time, they may also feel a certain distance from the Ukrainian community: topics, language, daily concerns begin to shift.

This experience is common among migrants. It’s painful because we no longer feel fully at home anywhere. But it also forms a new strength — the ability to live between cultures.

Being a bridge, not a shadow

Dual identity is not a phase — it’s a new kind of reality. But it doesn’t have to be a loss. Being Ukrainian in Germany means you can become a bridge between cultures. That role is more vital now than ever.

What helps to find balance?

• Staying connected with Ukrainian cultural life — events, literature, art.

• Taking part in German-speaking projects — to truly become part of society.

• Reminding yourself that duality is strength. Not “either–or” but “both–and.”

Postscript

We can’t tell you that you are neither Ukrainian nor only German. In the global world, a new identity is being formed on the crossbar itself. And once we learn to accept our richness, we can not just integrate, but merge.


Author: Maryna Bets